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Yay for you! Hold the good thought: it WILL be wo...

2009-07-13T18:22:48.664-04:00

Yay for you! Hold the good thought: it WILL be worth it!

I am a year behind you and I wish I was right ther...

2009-07-13T16:23:07.244-04:00

I am a year behind you and I wish I was right there with you. You are doing it, girl! Go for it!!

I'm so proud of you baby! You're gonna do great :...

2009-07-13T15:31:13.710-04:00

I'm so proud of you baby! You're gonna do great :)

That's awesome, kiddo! Very proud of you... you a...

2009-07-13T15:20:09.916-04:00

That's awesome, kiddo!

Very proud of you... you are really just rising up and above - sky's the limit! GO FOR IT!

I think that starting a group is an amazing way to...

2009-07-10T21:25:58.774-04:00

I think that starting a group is an amazing way to gain community, find support and to support other people. Congratulations!

Tina, the guy sounds like he's totally Loony Toons...

2009-07-10T14:40:55.778-04:00

Tina, the guy sounds like he's totally Loony Toons, but remember, the harder you push AGAINST something, the harder it pushes back. You say it will never be over. Well, it won't if you don't want it to be.

Just a bit of other perspective. I've worked in the law, too, and I know how these things can take over lives. I know you don't want to give more energy to this than to other things that are more important.

Now that this guy has shown his true colors to the court, I'm sure the judge will have a few things to say. Just keep the law on your side and let him sink his own ship.

Hugs!!!

GG

WoW they are nuts! good luck.

2009-07-10T11:53:55.888-04:00

WoW they are nuts! good luck.

OMG! What absolute effing slime! I am looking for...

2009-07-10T11:20:29.320-04:00

OMG! What absolute effing slime! I am looking forward to you taking it to them. Wish I was there to help!

Big, big hugs and strong energy coming your way!

These people are the worst. They'll get theirs eve...

2009-07-10T10:25:49.979-04:00

These people are the worst. They'll get theirs eventually don't worry about that.

xox

Holy cow! And I thought I was having a bad week! H...

2009-07-10T10:16:22.395-04:00

Holy cow! And I thought I was having a bad week! Hugs to you!

I've been trying to find the right words to write ...

2009-07-10T10:15:53.686-04:00

I've been trying to find the right words to write here and I've failed.

I suppose this is putting your love to the ultimate test Tina. I could say it's just about loving the person, and their gender doesn't matter, and as a transman I know all about that, but I do know that love and physical attraction are two different things.

But I agree with C, it is the soul of a person we love, and that doesn't change. :)

@8thdayplanner -- that's what alcohol is for. LOL ...

2009-07-10T10:04:44.031-04:00

@8thdayplanner -- that's what alcohol is for. LOL

@greg -- thx! seriously, is not insane?? part of me wants to back out of this thing just to get the stink off me, but the other part is like, "f#ck that!" this guy pulls this stuff all the time, I'm not gonna be the one to let him get away w/ it!

That post about Jeramie falling through the ice wa...

2009-07-10T09:57:05.796-04:00

That post about Jeramie falling through the ice was so upsetting.

"Sh!t, if you're a "pseudo-p@rent" then how about paying some "pseudo-child-support" motherf#cker" - Look, I worry about how serious this is all getting with these crazy people but that line made me spit out my coffee. You rock! And hard.

Just remember to breathe. Deeply. In, out. In, o...

2009-07-10T09:14:02.714-04:00

Just remember to breathe. Deeply. In, out. In, out.

Seriously, you have way too much stressful stuff going on in your life right now. Hope you are giving yourself some pampered, relax time to help balance it.

hey tina, jess... for me it's the soul we are in l...

2009-07-10T04:38:10.643-04:00

hey tina, jess... for me it's the soul we are in love with in that other person. for me it doesnt matter what body it lives in, its the soul that is the person. you both seem to love eachother and even if physicalities are changed, your souls will still be in love with eachother.. if rearranging your house brings peace and wholeness to your temple, thats all we can strive for, eh?

best of luck. i did like your blog title, cracked me up.

and i in NO WAY meant to minimalize your changes, jess. i just dont see what the fuck all the hang up is on what we need to go through to be complete and comfortable in our skin. after all, it's OURS.

great idea starting the support group. difficult things are always made easier when shared by others who understand.

c

What's that saying? If something needs doing you'd...

2009-07-09T12:30:52.595-04:00

What's that saying? If something needs doing you'd better do it yourself - and you did. Fierce femme or what?! The group sounds great. With love QRx

First - i LOVED The title of the post. I could so...

2009-07-09T12:14:09.542-04:00

First - i LOVED The title of the post. I could so hear you speaking those words! CRACKED ME UP! :-D

I second what GG said above. And i admire what you're going thru and believe that you guys will be ok.

That group sounds great and very needed. As much as your friends are being supportive (and we are!), we just can't know exactly what you're feeling and going thru.

(( Tina)))

I think a discussion/support group will be essenti...

2009-07-09T11:05:44.957-04:00

I think a discussion/support group will be essential. Good for you for being so proactive.

I have friends at various stages of transition ~ both ftm and mtf ~ and while I understand that they have to do this, the effect on their partner and their relationship is profound. I don't think partners get enough support, compassion, or respect through the process. I admire you for being willing to discuss and share your journey along the way.

Hugs and support from the West Coast... xoxo

Brava to you for starting such a group. I'm sure ...

2009-07-09T10:59:13.248-04:00

Brava to you for starting such a group. I'm sure it's needed. I think of you a lot as I go through the day, trying to put myself in your place if G were to make such a transition. This follows by trying to put myself in Jess' place, trying to imagine what *I* might to if I were on his journey to become his true self.

Truth is, being who you really are can be difficult even at the best of times, but none of us really exists alone. As Tich Nat Han (Buddhist wise man) would say, we "inter-are", because we simply cannot exist without the others in our lives.

So, I guess when you strip away the trappings of gender and sex, and you still have that love that drew you together, well, if THAT hasn't changed, then you both can handle the rest of it.

I have great confidence in you.

GG

Thank you so much for sharing this, Tina. There m...

2009-07-09T10:15:33.416-04:00

Thank you so much for sharing this, Tina. There may have been three people in that room, but through sharing like this on your blog, the group is actually so much bigger. And international too!

Big hugs and so much respect from across the pond

As much as I try to empathize with you, I realize...

2009-07-09T09:34:15.503-04:00

As much as I try to empathize with you, I realize I cannot come close to knowing what you must be going through. Connecting with others who are traveling the same path must be beneficial.

Still, the love you two have for each other is obvious, and I'm sure it will carry you, no matter where the relationship winds up going.

Many, many hugs being sent.

I'm proud of you for the way that you are handling...

2009-07-09T09:30:23.072-04:00

I'm proud of you for the way that you are handling everything and for starting that group.

I love you.

I think it's great that you have started a group. ...

2009-07-09T09:02:38.491-04:00

I think it's great that you have started a group. I think of you often and I wonder how you are doing. I'm glad you have found others close to talk to that know what your going through.

Thanks for sharing, Tina and great job starting a ...

2009-07-09T08:47:08.365-04:00

Thanks for sharing, Tina and great job starting a group. You need to have support from people who truly understand what you're going through. Many hugs.

This is why my parents record their calls to compa...

2009-07-09T02:56:55.216-04:00

This is why my parents record their calls to companys like that and also take down names...for proff.